Sexual Intimacy and Family Life

In class, I learned a lot of stuff. It was great. I honestly have the best major in the world. We covered a lot of info on sexual intimacy. Most of the time I feel like the stuff we cover about this subject or the stuff we hear about this subject doesn't apply to much to LDS people. There were plenty of statistics wich described the sexual involvement of college kids and teenagers. It was very surprising to hear about how many people would have sexual relations outside of marriage. That definitely is not the case here in the LDS community. I guarantee it is a lot less. I would assume LDS sexual relations are different than people that are not LDS.I feel like in marriage it would be hard to live with someone of the opposite gender. We discussed how males and females are extremely different in so many ways. My mom is a therapist and she told me of this LDS couple that got married. When they first got married, the wife loved to be intimate with her spouse. But after the first month of marriage, she didn't really want to be intimate anymore. This really made the husband stressed and frustrated. Part of it was the LDS upbringing, but most of it was that the wife was abused in her life and didn't feel comfortable being intimate. It sounds like there has to be a lot of talk and open discussion within a marriage and a couple regarding intimacy. Parents should be able to teach their children effective sex education. Children should be able to talk to their parents about sex and not get their information from unreliable sources like the internet or friends their age.

Transitions into marriage

In class this week we discussed transitioning into marriage. Some of the major things that a couple goes through in adjusting to marriage boundaries. I would think that a difficult part would be to leave your friends behind after you get married. I wouldn't want my wife to continue to talk to boys she knew before our marriage. If she did though, She would have to run by anything that she would think is questionable to communicate to someone of the opposite sex. It is better in my mind, to have a marriage have appropriate tight boundaries rather than lenient loose boundaries. Other aspects of a marriage transition that might be hard would be having to deal with the in-laws. You don't want to spend too much time with them and you don't want to not spend not enough time with them. It's important to find a balance. Many people think that its ok to talk to your family about personal trial or problems you might be going through. So the spouse might tell their mom or dad about their husband's drinking habit or how bad of a day at work their husband had. When the husband wouldn't want other people to know about that stuff about his life even if it is family members that would know.
Before a couple gets married, they should have some serious sit-down meetings about what is ok and what is not ok when they get married. That way there won't be any surprises when they get married and there would be fewer problems.